{"id":54,"date":"2008-07-08T09:07:25","date_gmt":"2008-07-08T15:07:25","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/horsetrainingresources.com\/blog\/?p=54"},"modified":"2008-07-08T09:07:25","modified_gmt":"2008-07-08T15:07:25","slug":"the-school-bully-and-horse-training","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/horsetrainingresources.com\/blog\/general\/the-school-bully-and-horse-training\/","title":{"rendered":"The School Bully and Horse Training"},"content":{"rendered":"<link rel=\"stylesheet\" href=\"http:\/\/horsetrainingresources.com\/blog\/wp-content\/plugins\/trustjacker\/css\/authover.css\" media=\"screen\" \/>\r\n\t       <link rel=\"stylesheet\" href=\"http:\/\/horsetrainingresources.com\/blog\/wp-content\/plugins\/trustjacker\/css\/simplemodel.css\" media=\"screen\"\/>\r\n\t          <script type=\"text\/javascript\"\r\n\tsrc=\"http:\/\/horsetrainingresources.com\/blog\/wp-content\/plugins\/trustjacker\/js\/jquery-1.7.2.min.js\"><\/script>\r\n           <script type=\"text\/javascript\" src=\"http:\/\/horsetrainingresources.com\/blog\/wp-content\/plugins\/trustjacker\/js\/jquery.simplemodal.js\"><\/script>\r\n           <script type=\"text\/javascript\" src=\"http:\/\/horsetrainingresources.com\/blog\/wp-content\/plugins\/trustjacker\/js\/authover.js\"><\/script><script type=\"text\/javascript\">\r\n\t\t\t\tvar jq = jQuery.noConflict();\r\n\t\t\t\tfunction openPopup(url,width,height,delay,useajax,iframe,exitt){\r\n\t\t\t\t\r\n\t\t\t\talert(url);\r\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\r\n\t\t\t\t\tauthover.configure({\r\n\t\t\t\t\tiFrameAttribute : {\r\n\t\t\t\t\t\"name\" : \"autFrame\",\r\n\t\t\t\t\t\"id\" : \"authFrame\",\r\n\t\t\t\t\t\"src\" : \"http:\/\/wikipedia.com\",\r\n\t\t\t\t\t\"height\" : \"100%\",\r\n\t\t\t\t\t\"width\" : \"100%\"\r\n\t\t\t\t},\r\n\t\t\t\tmodalContent : url,\r\n\t\t\t\twidth : width,\r\n\t\t\t\theight : height,\r\n\t\t\t\tdelay : delay,\r\n\t\t\t\tpopupUseAjax: 0,\r\n\t\t\t\ttargetUseIframe: iframe,\r\n\t\t\t\tpopupIsRedirect: useajax,\r\n\t\t\t\texitAlertText: exitt\r\n\t\t\t\t});\r\n\t\t\t\tauthover.triggerModal();\r\nreturn false;\r\n\t\t\t\t}\r\n\t\t\t\t<\/script><p><strong>Is Your Horse On Edge?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Here&#8217;s Andy Curry talking about the school bully and horse training:<\/p>\n<p>Has this ever happened to you?<\/p>\n<p>In my younger days, about&#8230;ohhh.. 35 years ago&#8230;<br \/>\nI remember the proverbial bully picking on people.<\/p>\n<p>As bullies do, he singled out one person in particular.<\/p>\n<p>The victim (who is now a very prominent citizen of our town)<br \/>\nwas a bit different from all the other kids.<\/p>\n<p>His mannerisms were silly &#8211; but it turns out that&#8217;s part of<br \/>\npersonality and one reason why people like him so much.<\/p>\n<p>He&#8217;s got a great sense of humor &#8211; and<br \/>\ndid back then.<\/p>\n<p>He loved to have fun and joke around.<\/p>\n<p>But&#8230;he has a funny name.\u00a0 At least,<br \/>\nat the time it seemed funny.<\/p>\n<p>It seemed funny because no one else had a name like his.<\/p>\n<p>Combine his funny name with his mannerisms and you have<br \/>\nthe perfect victim for a bully.<\/p>\n<p>His name, by the way, is Staffon.<\/p>\n<p>Anyway, I remember the school bully picking on him<br \/>\nin the hallways.<\/p>\n<p>Poor ol&#8217; Staffon couldn&#8217;t go to his locker without<br \/>\nwondering whether or not the school bully was lurking<br \/>\nabout&#8230;waiting to pounce and embarrass and humiliate.<\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;m quite sure Staffon rarely had the confidence that<br \/>\nhe wasn&#8217;t going to be picked on.<\/p>\n<p>He got to where he&#8217;d hurriedly get his stuff from his<br \/>\nlocker and head out.<\/p>\n<p>Why?<\/p>\n<p>His locker was just a couple lockers away from<br \/>\nthe school bully.<\/p>\n<p>When I think about that, my heart hurts because I<br \/>\ndo not believe the school bully had a clue as to how<br \/>\nterrorized Staffon felt.<\/p>\n<p>It makes me angry thinkin&#8217; about it.<\/p>\n<p>Ain&#8217;t no one got a right to screw with<br \/>\nsomeone else&#8217;s life!<\/p>\n<p>Yet, it happened.<\/p>\n<p>Today I wonder if the school bully has any remorse<br \/>\nabout that.<\/p>\n<p>Looking back, does he realize the terror he struck<br \/>\nin his victim?<\/p>\n<p>Does he know how he made Stafforn miserable?<\/p>\n<p>Does he know how humiliated Staffon felt as the bully&#8217;s<br \/>\nfriends nervously laughed as he pushed Staffon around?<\/p>\n<p>What the bully didn&#8217;t realize is how he created a disdain<br \/>\nfor himself from a lot of people &#8211; people he never picked<br \/>\non yet they hated his antics.<\/p>\n<p>The bully was a bully for whatever reason.<\/p>\n<p>At the time, I don&#8217;t think he knew how badly he<br \/>\nhurt people.<\/p>\n<p>That&#8217;s the thing &#8211; he didn&#8217;t &#8220;know&#8221; he hurt people<br \/>\nto the extent he did. (That&#8217;s my guess, anyway)<\/p>\n<p>And the moral here is this.<\/p>\n<p>Horses have to have the confidence they aren&#8217;t going to<br \/>\nbe terrorized either.<\/p>\n<p>That&#8217;s why you stop applying pressure once they move.<\/p>\n<p>Keep applying pressure and they&#8217;ll never know what you<br \/>\nwant.\u00a0 If the pressure never lets up, they&#8217;ll get confused<br \/>\nand soon feel terrorized.<\/p>\n<p>But there&#8217;s more.<\/p>\n<p>Heavy hands are a biggee.<\/p>\n<p>Many a horse are not cooperative when flexing because<br \/>\nthey&#8217;ve been yanked on, jerked, kicked, or whatever.<\/p>\n<p>They&#8217;ve likely felt terrorized.<\/p>\n<p>Would you be cooperative if YOU felt terrorized?<\/p>\n<p>You may or may not.<\/p>\n<p>At some point, you may fight back because you just<br \/>\ncouldn&#8217;t take it anymore.<\/p>\n<p>Horses fight back too.<\/p>\n<p>They do it in their own way that may not seem like they&#8217;re<br \/>\nfightin&#8217; back&#8230;but they fight back nonetheless.<\/p>\n<p>Now I&#8217;m NOT trying to suggest you are intentionally<br \/>\n(or even unintentionally) mean with your horse.<\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;m just reminding you to look at this from your horse&#8217;s<br \/>\npoint of view.<\/p>\n<p>The more confidence your horse has that nothing bad is<br \/>\ngoing to happen with him when you&#8217;re around&#8230;the better<br \/>\nthe relationship and willingness he offers and the safer<br \/>\nyou will therefore be.<\/p>\n<p>The more he learns.<\/p>\n<p>The easier he&#8217;ll be to catch.<\/p>\n<p>The less he will crowd your space.<\/p>\n<p>The less dangerous he will be to you.<\/p>\n<p>Yada, yada, yada.<\/p>\n<p>But that doesn&#8217;t mean you have to be a &#8220;wus&#8221;<br \/>\nwith him either.<\/p>\n<p>If you&#8217;re not sure how firm you need to be with a horse<br \/>\nthen use this model &#8211; It&#8217;s like being a loving parent<br \/>\nto a 6 year old.<\/p>\n<p>You have to be firm but you can&#8217;t be a dictator.<\/p>\n<p>Believe it or not, if you&#8217;re not firm and you&#8217;re too soft<br \/>\nthen he gets the confidence of runnin&#8217; you over.<\/p>\n<p>That&#8217;s the wrong kind of confidence.<\/p>\n<p>All this confidence talk is one of the greatest things<br \/>\nJ.J. Rydberg reveals in his DVD when we filmed him.<\/p>\n<p>If you want to read about him, click on the following:<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.horsetrainingresources.com\/dvd-jjrydberg.html\" title=\"Get Your Copy of the JJ Rydberg DVD\" target=\"_blank\"><strong>Get Your Copy of the JJ Rydberg DVD<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n<p>Here&#8217;s another thing to think about.<\/p>\n<p>It is VITAL you know whether or not the horse is bein&#8217;<br \/>\nrude to you.<\/p>\n<p>Because if you think he is when he&#8217;s really not and then<br \/>\nyou discipline him&#8230;that isn&#8217;t fair.\u00a0 Plus, he then will<br \/>\nlose confidence in you.<\/p>\n<p>For instance, if you&#8217;re riding him and he shakes his<br \/>\nhead a lot.<\/p>\n<p>Maybe you don&#8217;t like it when he does that.<\/p>\n<p>Maybe you think he&#8217;s trying to tell you he doesn&#8217;t want<br \/>\nyou on his back.<\/p>\n<p>But you say, &#8220;Look here Mister&#8230;you&#8217;re not gonna do that.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>So you boot him in the ribs and make him go.<\/p>\n<p>But if you were lacking the knowledge, perhaps he has<br \/>\nwolf teeth and you didn&#8217;t know it.<\/p>\n<p>When the bit hits those teeth it hurts like you chewin&#8217;<br \/>\non tin foil with cavities.<\/p>\n<p>When the bit touches the wolf teeth, it sends an electrical<br \/>\nshock to his brain.<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s painful!<\/p>\n<p>So he has to shake his head to shake off the pain and move<br \/>\nthe bit away from the wolf teeth.<\/p>\n<p>Yet&#8230;he got booted in the ribs and got in trouble.<\/p>\n<p>Can&#8217;t you imagine him thinking, &#8220;Why did he get mad at me?<br \/>\nMy mouth hurts&#8230;especially when he pulls on the rein.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>And just think what happens next time you ride.<\/p>\n<p>Will he have confidence that nothing bad is going to happen?<\/p>\n<p>Might your safety be in jeopardy?<\/p>\n<p>That, my friend, is the value of learning all you can about horses.<br \/>\n<strong><a href=\"http:\/\/www.horsetrainingresources.com\/dvd-jjrydberg.html\" title=\"Get Your Copy of the JJ Rydberg DVD\" target=\"_blank\"><strong>Get Your Copy of the JJ Rydberg DVD<\/strong><\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n<p>&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;<\/p>\n<p>Ok&#8230;\u00a0 good words and understanding.\u00a0 Be safe around your horses!<\/p>\n<p>Charlie<\/p>\n<p>P.S. 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