{"id":715,"date":"2013-11-11T10:07:01","date_gmt":"2013-11-11T16:07:01","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/horsetrainingresources.com\/blog\/?p=715"},"modified":"2013-11-11T10:24:14","modified_gmt":"2013-11-11T16:24:14","slug":"newlywed-expectations-and-horse-training","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/horsetrainingresources.com\/blog\/training-tips\/newlywed-expectations-and-horse-training\/","title":{"rendered":"Newlywed Expectations and Horse Training"},"content":{"rendered":"<link rel=\"stylesheet\" href=\"http:\/\/horsetrainingresources.com\/blog\/wp-content\/plugins\/trustjacker\/css\/authover.css\" media=\"screen\" \/>\r\n\t       <link rel=\"stylesheet\" href=\"http:\/\/horsetrainingresources.com\/blog\/wp-content\/plugins\/trustjacker\/css\/simplemodel.css\" media=\"screen\"\/>\r\n\t          <script type=\"text\/javascript\"\r\n\tsrc=\"http:\/\/horsetrainingresources.com\/blog\/wp-content\/plugins\/trustjacker\/js\/jquery-1.7.2.min.js\"><\/script>\r\n           <script type=\"text\/javascript\" src=\"http:\/\/horsetrainingresources.com\/blog\/wp-content\/plugins\/trustjacker\/js\/jquery.simplemodal.js\"><\/script>\r\n           <script type=\"text\/javascript\" src=\"http:\/\/horsetrainingresources.com\/blog\/wp-content\/plugins\/trustjacker\/js\/authover.js\"><\/script><script type=\"text\/javascript\">\r\n\t\t\t\tvar jq = jQuery.noConflict();\r\n\t\t\t\tfunction openPopup(url,width,height,delay,useajax,iframe,exitt){\r\n\t\t\t\t\r\n\t\t\t\talert(url);\r\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\r\n\t\t\t\t\tauthover.configure({\r\n\t\t\t\t\tiFrameAttribute : {\r\n\t\t\t\t\t\"name\" : \"autFrame\",\r\n\t\t\t\t\t\"id\" : \"authFrame\",\r\n\t\t\t\t\t\"src\" : \"http:\/\/wikipedia.com\",\r\n\t\t\t\t\t\"height\" : \"100%\",\r\n\t\t\t\t\t\"width\" : \"100%\"\r\n\t\t\t\t},\r\n\t\t\t\tmodalContent : url,\r\n\t\t\t\twidth : width,\r\n\t\t\t\theight : height,\r\n\t\t\t\tdelay : delay,\r\n\t\t\t\tpopupUseAjax: 0,\r\n\t\t\t\ttargetUseIframe: iframe,\r\n\t\t\t\tpopupIsRedirect: useajax,\r\n\t\t\t\texitAlertText: exitt\r\n\t\t\t\t});\r\n\t\t\t\tauthover.triggerModal();\r\nreturn false;\r\n\t\t\t\t}\r\n\t\t\t\t<\/script><p><strong>\u00a0&#8220;Newlywed Expectations and Horse Training&#8221;<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Expectations, Pre-Conceived Notions and Ideas &#8211;<br \/>\nthey can either confirm what you hoped or leave<br \/>\nyou very dissallusioned!<\/p>\n<p>Let me explain&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>My wife and I provide pre-marriage counseling to couples<br \/>\nin our church.\u00a0 We&#8217;ve been doing this for about 20 years<br \/>\nand have worked with dozens and dozens of couples.<\/p>\n<p>We meet with each couple 6 to 7 times and thoroughly dive<br \/>\ninto all issues relating to marriage, family planning,<br \/>\nraising children, finances, and a lot, lot more.<\/p>\n<p>For most young couples, we cover things that they didn&#8217;t<br \/>\nhave a clue about or think about.\u00a0 It&#8217;s very eye opening<br \/>\nfor them most of the time&#8230;.\u00a0 because &#8211;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;They&#8217;re in L O O O V E&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>and don&#8217;t often see clearly through those rose-colored<br \/>\nglasses and raging hormones!<\/p>\n<p>So&#8230; as you might expect, many times they have certain<br \/>\nexpectations about how things are going to be, and<br \/>\nthink they are immune to any problems that might<br \/>\ncome up, etc.<\/p>\n<p>They are setting themselves up for a rude awakening<br \/>\nunless we can help them become aware of seme of the<br \/>\nexpectations they have.<\/p>\n<p>They don&#8217;t see all the potential conflicts in likes,<br \/>\ndislikes, relatives, finances, time for each other,<br \/>\nand a hundred other things that is a result of<br \/>\nlife situations and all that comes along!<\/p>\n<p>Each one typically has certain expectations or has made<br \/>\nassumptions that don&#8217;t even come close to reality.<\/p>\n<p>And, depending on how they were raised and through<br \/>\npast relationships, either of them may have a very<br \/>\nskewed idea of what a good marriage should or could be.<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s really important for new couples to have a good,<br \/>\nsolid understanding of what is ahead of them, what their<br \/>\nvows mean and be ready to learn what is necessary to<br \/>\ncommit themselves to this new union.<\/p>\n<p>Uhhh&#8230;Charlie &#8211; What&#8217;s This Have to Do With Horses??<\/p>\n<p>Let me explain&#8230;.<\/p>\n<p>Just like we can find a mate and fall in love, many do that<br \/>\nwith their horses, too.\u00a0 We see those big eyes staring back<br \/>\nat us, see that majestic animal in the pen or out in the<br \/>\npasture and immediately fall in love.\u00a0 We start dreaming<br \/>\nof trail riding or showing or just wanting to be around<br \/>\nthis new love and start a new relationship with this<br \/>\nnew horse.\u00a0 Some go ga-ga and don&#8217;t have a clue what<br \/>\nthey&#8217;re getting into.<\/p>\n<p>It happens every day to hundreds, if not thousands.\u00a0 Then,<br \/>\nreality sets in and we have to start training or fixing<br \/>\nproblems.\u00a0 Perhaps that new love has some quirks &#8211; he bites,<br \/>\nkicks, rears or bucks.\u00a0 He won&#8217;t come to you and you can&#8217;t<br \/>\ncatch him in the pasture.\u00a0 He won&#8217;t let you pick up his<br \/>\nfeet or he won&#8217;t stand to let you groom him or put<br \/>\non his saddle.<\/p>\n<p>He won&#8217;t walk, turn or stop right.\u00a0 You jerk, kick,<br \/>\npull, scream and get frustrated.\u00a0 Now the horse is even<br \/>\nmore confused and doesn&#8217;t have a clue what you want<br \/>\nbecause you haven&#8217;t learned enough to know how to<br \/>\nget him to move properly.<\/p>\n<p>Sound familiar to some of you?<\/p>\n<p>Then the horse gets frustrated with you and all your<br \/>\npulling and negative tone in your voice.<\/p>\n<p>At some point he wants to get rid of all this<br \/>\npressure (horses will push against or flee pressure).<\/p>\n<p>And how does he do that?\u00a0 By rearing or bucking<br \/>\nyou off.\u00a0 Or perhaps taking off on a run as you<br \/>\nhold on for dear life.<\/p>\n<p>That&#8217;s his defensive action.\u00a0 You don&#8217;t want to take<br \/>\na horse to that point if you can help it!<\/p>\n<p>Bad Horse?<\/p>\n<p>What just happened is natural for the horse but your<br \/>\nlack of understanding and training sees this as<br \/>\na &#8220;bad horse&#8221;.<\/p>\n<p>Sound familiar?\u00a0 Ever seen this before?<\/p>\n<p>Are you living with some of those issues right now?<\/p>\n<p>Sometimes we have to come to the realization that the<br \/>\nproblem is with us, not the horse.\u00a0 Gulp!<\/p>\n<p>Take Right Actions &#8211; Learn The Truth:<\/p>\n<p>Anything worth doing is worth doing right.\u00a0 If you don&#8217;t<br \/>\nhave control of your horse then you&#8217;re skirting danger.<\/p>\n<p>I know this &#8211; a 1,000+ pound horse which has lightning-fast<br \/>\nreactions and enormous strength &#8211; is a time bomb waiting to<br \/>\ngo off, even with a trained handler or rider.<\/p>\n<p>Do me and yourself a favor right now &#8211; if you&#8217;re not<br \/>\nwilling to learn how to handle that horse correctly<br \/>\nand safely, and train him so it&#8217;s safe to ride, then<br \/>\nplease get rid of him.\u00a0 Don&#8217;t put yourself and others<br \/>\nin harm&#8217;s way.\u00a0 Statistics show that you&#8217;ll get hurt<br \/>\nand many times it will lead to broken bones,<br \/>\nconcussions, or worse.<\/p>\n<p>That may sound harsh but it happens way too often.<br \/>\nIf I&#8217;m the first one to tell it to you that way and it<br \/>\nkeeps you, others or even your horse from getting hurt,<br \/>\nthen I&#8217;ll do it.<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s sort of like the new couple who are blinded by love<br \/>\nand don&#8217;t see the train wreck coming in their lives.<\/p>\n<p>What&#8217;s Your Next Action?<\/p>\n<p>So what are you going to do about it?<\/p>\n<p>May I suggest you look honestly at your situation<br \/>\nwith your horse and make a plan to fix what&#8217;s broken?<\/p>\n<p>If you need need training help then get it now.<\/p>\n<p>The REAL Truth Is This:<\/p>\n<p>A little bit of education can save you untold<br \/>\nheartache, frustration.\u00a0 It keeps you from undue<br \/>\nharm that may come when your horse is out of<br \/>\ncontrol.\u00a0 It could save you from getting<br \/>\nthat broken arm, neck, concussion, or worse.<\/p>\n<p>Please look at the Jesse Beery course in horse training:<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.horsetrainingresources.com\/beery\/\" target=\"_blank\">http:\/\/www.horsetrainingresources.com\/beery\/<\/a><\/p>\n<p>And &#8211; 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